Touch Life


As I walk through this path, I ask myself if I am going to approach them and would ask “what keeps you looking forward in life?”  But then, I just shut my mouth and silently observe them.

As I went back home, I search again my favorite inspirational article from “TinyBuddha.com”

I would like to share on my personal blog the said article.

Why we should look forward to more of each day? “Looking forward to even the smallest parts of your day can’t only make the day more enjoyable, but can also improve your outlook on life, help you appreciate the things you have, keep you from getting stressed out, and help you have better relationships.”

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The art of being “Single”


It’s been eight long years, since my first relationship ended.

I’ve been enjoying my life as a single woman focusing on my career, parents, loved-ones, friends, self-identity and especially waiting for God’s signal to meet a right guy.

I tried joining dating websites with the influence of my friends who found their loving husband and fiance’ through online dating. But I failed to find a good man.

I’m scared to commit mistake again and the fear to easily fall in love.

Sometimes, I feel frustrated but then when I just close my eyes whisper the name of the Lord and believe in His words, I feel at ease.

I am not a perfect woman, I have my flaws and downfall.

From my past, I have learned a lesson and it made me stronger.

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Being single at the age of 33,  doesn’t mean that I don’t want to settle down someday.

As a single at this moment, it gives me more time to explore things, to enjoy every opportunity,  and widening my horizon by mingling to other people, accepting their cultures and the likes.

There are so many advantages being a single. I love my life and it gives me more strength and inspiration to dream big and plan goals for the future.

As I end my article, “I will meet the right guy destined to be my lifetime partner. A good man that God has chosen.”

 

Loving Unconditionally


In some articles I wrote about “Love & Relationship”, I included blogs and reviews from other writers. These blogs help me a lot in terms of information, an awakening into reality, and serve as a driving force for me to write.

I am so grateful to all my guests featured in every article published, for giving me permission to include their magical moments in Maldives.

Here is an introduction I quoted from author Barrie Davenport.

“Lasting relationships require unconditional love. Unconditional love in a relationship begins with oneself. To set the foundation for a lasting, healthy relationship, you must first have a strong sense of self-esteem and self-confidence. It also means you can stand on your own two feet as an individual without requiring a romantic partner to define you or complete you. You can be together with someone and still remain fully yourself — as a person you like and respect.”

     “Offering unconditional love to yourself means you are able to view yourself as lovable and worthy — in spite of any perceived flaws or past mistakes.

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Within the relationship itself, you are able to love the other person as they are in their essence. If you have fallen in love with this person and want to build a lasting relationship with them, then you must view them as a unique individual, not as an extension of yourself.”

“They may be different from you in many ways. They may view the world differently and have habits that you don’t share, but you can embrace these differences because they are part of this unique person you love.“

“You begin with the essentials of self-love ,mutual love and respect. You see and embrace the core of the other, their innate personality and worldview. You acknowledge the influences of their upbringing, life experiences, and ingrained behaviors.”

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Photos taken in Maldives: 

It’s just simply saying: opposite attracts, likes repel.

2 and 1/2 years into a relationship, before tying a knot

– See more at: http://liveboldandbloom.com/11/relationships/unconditional-love-the-key-to-lasting-relationships

Keeping Marriage Stronger (the finale)


Before anything else, I would like to express my gratitude to all readers, viewers and guests who were featured on this blog.

Thank you for the trust for letting me write this article and the positive response through email.

As a writer, I have this mood swing whether I want to start another topic or not. When information feeds my exhausted brain, I am being reinvigorate. My brain starts to imagine fairy tales, couple walking hand in hand under the  moonlight, and the sparkle of  love and kisses.

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25 years happily married

 

Whenever I ask couples, if they want to be a part of my blog, they often ask if I am married. Before they jump into another question, I answered them with a smile, that their unique love story will be an inspiration for me and to all readers of my blog.

I will not disclose their love stories. The trials they have been to, from the time of dating until they settled down. By merely reading the glitters into their eyes, and genuine smile. I can say, they are happily contented and loved.

Furthermore, I included here my research and summarized according to my understanding  about “The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work….Strengthening the Marital Friendship” by John Gottmann, 1999

1. Stay in touch with each other- have time to talk each day, even for simple things.

2. Show appreciation- Saying thanks or giving compliments.

3. Show kindness- kind words or kind actions.

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4.Give the gift of understanding- For someone to be understood, he must know how to understand first.

 

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5. Learn your spouse’s ‘love language”

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6. Make time for fun

7. Balance being a parent with being a partner- Parenthood can bring some special demands and challenges to the marriage

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20 years happily married and blessed with 2 lovely teenage daughters

 

“A solid marital friendship is a buffer against the problems that arise in marriage. No marriage will ever be totally free of differences, and setting out to “fix” everything we’re unhappy about is an impossible task. The more we’re focused on problems, the more problems we’ll see. Couples are happier when they can focus on the good in their marriage and in their spouse. When the friendship is good, it’s easier to do that, And when our friendship is solid and we are happy in the marriage, differences and problems don’t matter as much.” (by  Thomas R. Lee, Ph.D., 2001)

 

Keeping Marriage stronger


This is my another article that will tackle about “Love and Marriage”.  Today is a special day to all honeymooners, couples, and people who are into relationship. Bouquet of flowers, chocolates, expensive wines, and greeting cards are everywhere.

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May I share this article which  I summarized from the original script of Mr. Greg Laurie on how to keep marriage stronger.

  1. Turn on the light- The Bible says, “Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path” (Psalm 119:105). You must bring your marriage into the light of Scripture.
  2. Wake up- Place a firewall around your hearts, and do everything that you can to protect yourselves.
  3. Walk circumspectly. Ephesians 3:15 says, “See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools but as wise.”
  4. Redeem the time-  (Ephesians 5:16). The word redeem means to make the most of your time.
  5. Be filled with the Spirit- You cannot be what God wants you to be without the help of His Spirit.

The Bible is true, and your marriage will not only survive, but also flourish, as you follow the principles in it.

 

Below are my guests in different Island Resorts in Maldives. Feeling thankful again, for allowing me them to be featured on this blog.

10 Top Tactics to Keep a Marriage

Strong or Help Make It Strong Again

by www.SixWise.com

Show affection regularly.

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Keep arguments respectful.

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Communicate.

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Be nice to your spouse.

Choose your battles- Save the arguments for the big stuff, and simply learn to live with the rest of it.

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Do fun things together.

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Laugh together

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Show your respect.

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Do things YOUR way– It’s important that together you establish your own traditions, daily rituals and methods for raising your children, taking care of finances, etc.

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Be empathetic- Make an effort to understand your spouse, hear their concerns, and share their excitement.

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Once again, Happy Happy Valentine’s Day to all bloggers, readers, viewers of this blog.

 

 

Finding a Perfect Match


What is a healthy relationship?

A healthy relationship is when two people develop a connection based on:

– Mutual respect

–  Trust

– Honesty

–  Support

–  Fairness/equality

–  Separate identities

–  Good communication

–  A sense of playfulness/fondness
Source: UW Seattle

 

Life as a single person offers many rewards, including learning how to build a healthy relationship with yourself. However, if you’re ready to share your life with someone and want to build a lasting, worthwhile relationship, life as a single person can also be very frustrating.

Finding the right romantic partner is often a difficult journey, for several reasons. Perhaps you grew up in a household where there was no role model of a solid, healthy relationship and you doubt that such a thing even exists. Or maybe your dating history consists only of short, abrupt relationships where you or your partner gets bored too soon, and you don’t know how to make a relationship last. You could be attracted to the wrong type of person or making the same bad choices, due to an unresolved issue from your past. It’s also possible you’re not putting yourself in the best environments to meet the right person, or that when you do, you don’t feel confident enough to approach someone. There is fear in your heart. Then eventually, instead of opening your doors for a new relationship you deprive yourself to be loved by other opposite sex. On the other hand, having a new short-term relationship after break-up is just only a sweet revenge from your past failed relationship. The worst thing is, if you are using someone else as a rebound or just to feed your fantasies.

This is another article of mine I want to share.  The experience I felt with these  lovely couples from China.

It was on August 16, at the arrival jetty when Mr. Peng and Ms. Rui (honeymooners)visit Jumeirah Vittaveli. Plastering their biggest smile ever with high spirit as they make a pose in front of the camera.

The following day, we did  a 45-minute  photo shoot around the island. Full of laughter and action as we go along with the shoot.

Despite warm weather and heat of the sun, they still manage to smile and show off their genuine expressions which make  the capture more realistic.

As we go along, Ms. Peng (Florence), shared their love story.  They are very kind, humble and funny couple.

I am very grateful, that I am part of their memorable experience during their  vacation here in Maldives.

Below are the pictures taken in Jumeirah Vittaveli

 

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Greetings on the Year of the Dragon


“New Year, Another journey and path to walk on ……”

In this article first and foremost, I would like to give thanks and greet all my relatives, cousins, and brother living and working abroad. To all my Blog followers, twitter friends and mates, Facebook groups (SimpleThoughts & Single Pilipina), batch mates, and friends in and out cyber world a bountiful and prosperous New Year to all of us.

In my previous articles in “My Points of View” and “My Memoirs”, I was overwhelmed about the outcome and comments of those viewers and readers who visited by blogs.

To all members of SimpleThoughts, a group I created, thank you for sharing “thoughts and quotes” for the day.

Thank you to all my friends and subscribers in my YouTube channel “Miechellejoy”. Luckily YouTube panelists didn’t block all my created videos (crazy & funny videos, lol!).

It is only a short period of time since I joined Twitter, YouTube, Blogging, and Single Pilipina, yet the camaraderie and sharing of ideas are more important to me. Though we didn’t meet formally in person, this medium serves as a channel for us to communicate.

Year 2011 calendar will soon be disposed and it will change to a new one. It is a year for every one who suffered failures, bitterness, heartaches and pains. Despite of those, we still manage to smile and stand up from our downfall.

Indeed, 2011 for me is not quite good. I am still thankful to the Lord because He guides me to the right path. I have my parents, brothers, trusted and close friends who are there to support me in my ups and downs.

There were circumstances that I was really upset and dejected. Still I never gave up. As this press time, I am still optimistic and waiting for the positive results of all my decisions and plans.

On the other hand, as I am refreshing the unforgettable moment in my life, it is really hard to forget. When someone made a scar and deeply wounded your whole being. I do believe the way to move forward is not going back which was already done in the past.

My only consolation to myself is I learned from my mistakes. People accept me for who and what I am right now. In spite of my impulsive decisions in life and stubbornness, God still remain by my side.

As my final statement, “Life is full of mystery and a roller-coaster in a rugged country road. It is full of excitement, suspense, actions, and romance. In this world we meet true and false people. They might influence us in good and bad terms. But still parents stick with us.”
Once again join me in celebrating and welcoming “2012 countdown”…..HAPPY NEW YEAR TO EVERYONE!!!!!!!!