Challenge of a Long Distance Relationship


More and more young couples are struggling with launching two separate careers at the same time that they are launching a relationship. Frequently, couples in this situation quote “absence makes the heart grow fonder” as a way of reassuring themselves and each other that their love will sustain them over the difficulties of distance and time.

 

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Couples in a long distance relationship face: Communication problems, Psychological and Relationship problems.

  1. Communication Problems- communication is the important ingredient in all relationships.

– When couple lives in different country and time zone.

– Discrepancy over mode of communication

– Difference in “primary love languages

-Dependence on technology

 

  1. Relationship Problems

– Possibility of growing apart

–  The challenge of dependence

-Lack of physical interaction

-Absence of tangible support

-Issues blown out of proportion

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  1. Psychological Problem

-Loneliness

-Depression

-Anxiety

-Insecurity

-Uncertainty

 

What can a couple do to preserve their love and relationship over the miles?

1.Both members of the couple are committed to the commitment.

2. Both members keep their partners visible to the people around them, as well as to themselves.

3.The arrangement meets the needs of both people.

4.The arrangement is within each partner’s physical “intimacy zone”.

5. Both people are focused on their careers when they are working and on each other when they are together.

6. They consider carefully whether they have what it takes to add a “third career” (child-rearing) to the mix.

 

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Prayer is a strong weapon to a weakening relationship. Put God as a center of your relationship plus patience, trust, endurance, a strong sense of commitment, and healthy communication between couple is key to tackle the problems and challenges of a long distance relationship.

 

Photos taken in Maldives

sources from Authors: Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker and Sejal Parikh

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Touch Life


As I walk through this path, I ask myself if I am going to approach them and would ask “what keeps you looking forward in life?”  But then, I just shut my mouth and silently observe them.

As I went back home, I search again my favorite inspirational article from “TinyBuddha.com”

I would like to share on my personal blog the said article.

Why we should look forward to more of each day? “Looking forward to even the smallest parts of your day can’t only make the day more enjoyable, but can also improve your outlook on life, help you appreciate the things you have, keep you from getting stressed out, and help you have better relationships.”

Rising Dubai


After two years, I’m back in Dubai again. Site-seeing with these high-rising infrastructures and on-going construction of new buildings.

The 158th General Assembly of the Bureau International des Expositions (BIE) in Paris has officially confirmed Dubai as the Host City of the next World Exposition in 2020. (source: http://expo2020-dubai.blogspot.ae/)

Photos taken near Burj Khalifa, different Metro Stations

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Enchanted Beauty of Batanes


Batanes is the smallest and northernmost province in the Philippines.

I stayed there for four days. Being thrilled to visit places in Batan and Sabtang Island, I woke up early to catch a ride.

The place is really haven for me. The road trip  up to  the hills of Batanes is really a great experience.

I shall return to this place someday  and visit Itbayat Island which it takes 3 to 4 hours boat trip from Basco.

Below are the photos I took in Batanes:

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The art of being “Single”


It’s been eight long years, since my first relationship ended.

I’ve been enjoying my life as a single woman focusing on my career, parents, loved-ones, friends, self-identity and especially waiting for God’s signal to meet a right guy.

I tried joining dating websites with the influence of my friends who found their loving husband and fiance’ through online dating. But I failed to find a good man.

I’m scared to commit mistake again and the fear to easily fall in love.

Sometimes, I feel frustrated but then when I just close my eyes whisper the name of the Lord and believe in His words, I feel at ease.

I am not a perfect woman, I have my flaws and downfall.

From my past, I have learned a lesson and it made me stronger.

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Being single at the age of 33,  doesn’t mean that I don’t want to settle down someday.

As a single at this moment, it gives me more time to explore things, to enjoy every opportunity,  and widening my horizon by mingling to other people, accepting their cultures and the likes.

There are so many advantages being a single. I love my life and it gives me more strength and inspiration to dream big and plan goals for the future.

As I end my article, “I will meet the right guy destined to be my lifetime partner. A good man that God has chosen.”

 

Maldives: My Second Home


The hardest word to say, is by saying goodbye to a place you considered second home.

A place where I hold on to my dreams, a place where I have gained friends, a place where I enjoyed travelling in other resorts, and a place wherein I will cherish every moment until I grow old.

My journey never ends here. Second thoughts still lingered on my mind. Life has twist and turn.

But, I entrusted it to the Lord all of my decisions in life. I cannot do this alone without Him.

I just believe in myself I can go through with this.

I cherished all the moments.

Anantara, Maldives
Anantara Veli
Angsana Velavaru
Angsana Velavaru (In-Ocean Villa)
Banyan Tree- Vabbinfaru
Chaaya Dhonveli
Jumeirah Vittaveli, overlooking Lagoon Suites
Jumeirah Vittaveli, Lagoon Villas
Komandoo Resort- Water Villas
Kuredu Resort- Extended Sandbank
Paradise Resort- The Pool
Taj- Exotica- view from President’s suite
Taj Exotica- arrival jetty
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Velassaru Resort, at the beach side
Male, Maldives
Male, Maldives

The Essence of Fatherhood


Not every man can be a good father and at the same time a loving husband. Being a responsible father brings out the inner qualities of fatherhood.

The first time, I asked my brother how’s being a father and husband. He can’t explain the feeling entering another phase of his life. A single word he only said to me, “Happy”.

                                     

Being a first time father is quite terrifying but rewarding experience. The moment you witness the hardship of your wife in that delivery room, the first time you gonna hear the cry of your first born child,  and the time that everyone will congratulate you.

I could hardly imagine how bachelors changed their lifestyle once they became a father figure.

Building up a successful family is a tough job for every parent. It involves commitment, self-sacrifice, integrity, and unconditional love.

Responsible fathers are concerned with the well-being of their children, and their desire is to see their children succeed in all areas of life.

I just remember what our parents often tell to us, “Always pray to God”. Our father thinks for the future, even though we are all grown ups and have our own careers, still he never fails to give us advice. I am so grateful for having such great parents. We simply live a simple life. We are happy and contented what we have.

Throwback photo *_^

Throwback photo *_^

Moreover, I featured some of my guests on this very special day.  These great fathers enjoying their quality time with their loved-ones.

Father & Son tandem from China

with loving wife
Lovely Sofia with Father
Happy Family
Cute handsome son from Czech Republic
Wife is 8 months preggy
Congratulations! The couple just got married last May 16, 2015

In Loving Memory


Life is like a newly watered plants in the garden,
Fresh in the morning, soon it will be withered.
Vibrant color green when it is still young,
When the time comes, the leaves will fall.
It will touch the ground, soon it will be gone.
I still miss the childhood days with you,
Your serious face and funny smile.
Only in  memory, I can remember you.
It’s too late to say, ” I love you”.
Why can’t I stop these tears?
Why can’t I stop blaming myself?
Being selfish for keeping eight long years,
Not asking how are you?
Being affected by this emotion I kept inside,
Thinking always Grandma, instead of you.
If only I can bring back the time
I want to say sorry and  forgive you.
Now you’re gone Papang,
How can I read these lines to you?
How can you hear me singing it loud?
Amazing grace, I sing it for you:(