Keeping Marriage Stronger (the finale)


Before anything else, I would like to express my gratitude to all readers, viewers and guests who were featured on this blog.

Thank you for the trust for letting me write this article and the positive response through email.

As a writer, I have this mood swing whether I want to start another topic or not. When information feeds my exhausted brain, I am being reinvigorate. My brain starts to imagine fairy tales, couple walking hand in hand under the  moonlight, and the sparkle of  love and kisses.

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25 years happily married

 

Whenever I ask couples, if they want to be a part of my blog, they often ask if I am married. Before they jump into another question, I answered them with a smile, that their unique love story will be an inspiration for me and to all readers of my blog.

I will not disclose their love stories. The trials they have been to, from the time of dating until they settled down. By merely reading the glitters into their eyes, and genuine smile. I can say, they are happily contented and loved.

Furthermore, I included here my research and summarized according to my understanding  about “The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work….Strengthening the Marital Friendship” by John Gottmann, 1999

1. Stay in touch with each other- have time to talk each day, even for simple things.

2. Show appreciation- Saying thanks or giving compliments.

3. Show kindness- kind words or kind actions.

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4.Give the gift of understanding- For someone to be understood, he must know how to understand first.

 

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5. Learn your spouse’s ‘love language”

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6. Make time for fun

7. Balance being a parent with being a partner- Parenthood can bring some special demands and challenges to the marriage

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20 years happily married and blessed with 2 lovely teenage daughters

 

“A solid marital friendship is a buffer against the problems that arise in marriage. No marriage will ever be totally free of differences, and setting out to “fix” everything we’re unhappy about is an impossible task. The more we’re focused on problems, the more problems we’ll see. Couples are happier when they can focus on the good in their marriage and in their spouse. When the friendship is good, it’s easier to do that, And when our friendship is solid and we are happy in the marriage, differences and problems don’t matter as much.” (by  Thomas R. Lee, Ph.D., 2001)

 

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Keeping Marriage stronger


This is my another article that will tackle about “Love and Marriage”.  Today is a special day to all honeymooners, couples, and people who are into relationship. Bouquet of flowers, chocolates, expensive wines, and greeting cards are everywhere.

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May I share this article which  I summarized from the original script of Mr. Greg Laurie on how to keep marriage stronger.

  1. Turn on the light- The Bible says, “Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path” (Psalm 119:105). You must bring your marriage into the light of Scripture.
  2. Wake up- Place a firewall around your hearts, and do everything that you can to protect yourselves.
  3. Walk circumspectly. Ephesians 3:15 says, “See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools but as wise.”
  4. Redeem the time-  (Ephesians 5:16). The word redeem means to make the most of your time.
  5. Be filled with the Spirit- You cannot be what God wants you to be without the help of His Spirit.

The Bible is true, and your marriage will not only survive, but also flourish, as you follow the principles in it.

 

Below are my guests in different Island Resorts in Maldives. Feeling thankful again, for allowing me them to be featured on this blog.

10 Top Tactics to Keep a Marriage

Strong or Help Make It Strong Again

by www.SixWise.com

Show affection regularly.

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Keep arguments respectful.

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Communicate.

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Be nice to your spouse.

Choose your battles- Save the arguments for the big stuff, and simply learn to live with the rest of it.

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Do fun things together.

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Laugh together

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Show your respect.

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Do things YOUR way– It’s important that together you establish your own traditions, daily rituals and methods for raising your children, taking care of finances, etc.

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Be empathetic- Make an effort to understand your spouse, hear their concerns, and share their excitement.

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Once again, Happy Happy Valentine’s Day to all bloggers, readers, viewers of this blog.