Challenge of a Long Distance Relationship


More and more young couples are struggling with launching two separate careers at the same time that they are launching a relationship. Frequently, couples in this situation quote “absence makes the heart grow fonder” as a way of reassuring themselves and each other that their love will sustain them over the difficulties of distance and time.

 

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Couples in a long distance relationship face: Communication problems, Psychological and Relationship problems.

  1. Communication Problems- communication is the important ingredient in all relationships.

– When couple lives in different country and time zone.

– Discrepancy over mode of communication

– Difference in “primary love languages

-Dependence on technology

 

  1. Relationship Problems

– Possibility of growing apart

–  The challenge of dependence

-Lack of physical interaction

-Absence of tangible support

-Issues blown out of proportion

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  1. Psychological Problem

-Loneliness

-Depression

-Anxiety

-Insecurity

-Uncertainty

 

What can a couple do to preserve their love and relationship over the miles?

1.Both members of the couple are committed to the commitment.

2. Both members keep their partners visible to the people around them, as well as to themselves.

3.The arrangement meets the needs of both people.

4.The arrangement is within each partner’s physical “intimacy zone”.

5. Both people are focused on their careers when they are working and on each other when they are together.

6. They consider carefully whether they have what it takes to add a “third career” (child-rearing) to the mix.

 

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Prayer is a strong weapon to a weakening relationship. Put God as a center of your relationship plus patience, trust, endurance, a strong sense of commitment, and healthy communication between couple is key to tackle the problems and challenges of a long distance relationship.

 

Photos taken in Maldives

sources from Authors: Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker and Sejal Parikh

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The art of being “Single”


It’s been eight long years, since my first relationship ended.

I’ve been enjoying my life as a single woman focusing on my career, parents, loved-ones, friends, self-identity and especially waiting for God’s signal to meet a right guy.

I tried joining dating websites with the influence of my friends who found their loving husband and fiance’ through online dating. But I failed to find a good man.

I’m scared to commit mistake again and the fear to easily fall in love.

Sometimes, I feel frustrated but then when I just close my eyes whisper the name of the Lord and believe in His words, I feel at ease.

I am not a perfect woman, I have my flaws and downfall.

From my past, I have learned a lesson and it made me stronger.

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Being single at the age of 33,  doesn’t mean that I don’t want to settle down someday.

As a single at this moment, it gives me more time to explore things, to enjoy every opportunity,  and widening my horizon by mingling to other people, accepting their cultures and the likes.

There are so many advantages being a single. I love my life and it gives me more strength and inspiration to dream big and plan goals for the future.

As I end my article, “I will meet the right guy destined to be my lifetime partner. A good man that God has chosen.”

 

Loving Unconditionally


In some articles I wrote about “Love & Relationship”, I included blogs and reviews from other writers. These blogs help me a lot in terms of information, an awakening into reality, and serve as a driving force for me to write.

I am so grateful to all my guests featured in every article published, for giving me permission to include their magical moments in Maldives.

Here is an introduction I quoted from author Barrie Davenport.

“Lasting relationships require unconditional love. Unconditional love in a relationship begins with oneself. To set the foundation for a lasting, healthy relationship, you must first have a strong sense of self-esteem and self-confidence. It also means you can stand on your own two feet as an individual without requiring a romantic partner to define you or complete you. You can be together with someone and still remain fully yourself — as a person you like and respect.”

     “Offering unconditional love to yourself means you are able to view yourself as lovable and worthy — in spite of any perceived flaws or past mistakes.

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Within the relationship itself, you are able to love the other person as they are in their essence. If you have fallen in love with this person and want to build a lasting relationship with them, then you must view them as a unique individual, not as an extension of yourself.”

“They may be different from you in many ways. They may view the world differently and have habits that you don’t share, but you can embrace these differences because they are part of this unique person you love.“

“You begin with the essentials of self-love ,mutual love and respect. You see and embrace the core of the other, their innate personality and worldview. You acknowledge the influences of their upbringing, life experiences, and ingrained behaviors.”

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Photos taken in Maldives: 

It’s just simply saying: opposite attracts, likes repel.

2 and 1/2 years into a relationship, before tying a knot

– See more at: http://liveboldandbloom.com/11/relationships/unconditional-love-the-key-to-lasting-relationships

Keeping Marriage Stronger (the finale)


Before anything else, I would like to express my gratitude to all readers, viewers and guests who were featured on this blog.

Thank you for the trust for letting me write this article and the positive response through email.

As a writer, I have this mood swing whether I want to start another topic or not. When information feeds my exhausted brain, I am being reinvigorate. My brain starts to imagine fairy tales, couple walking hand in hand under the  moonlight, and the sparkle of  love and kisses.

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25 years happily married

 

Whenever I ask couples, if they want to be a part of my blog, they often ask if I am married. Before they jump into another question, I answered them with a smile, that their unique love story will be an inspiration for me and to all readers of my blog.

I will not disclose their love stories. The trials they have been to, from the time of dating until they settled down. By merely reading the glitters into their eyes, and genuine smile. I can say, they are happily contented and loved.

Furthermore, I included here my research and summarized according to my understanding  about “The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work….Strengthening the Marital Friendship” by John Gottmann, 1999

1. Stay in touch with each other- have time to talk each day, even for simple things.

2. Show appreciation- Saying thanks or giving compliments.

3. Show kindness- kind words or kind actions.

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4.Give the gift of understanding- For someone to be understood, he must know how to understand first.

 

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5. Learn your spouse’s ‘love language”

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6. Make time for fun

7. Balance being a parent with being a partner- Parenthood can bring some special demands and challenges to the marriage

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20 years happily married and blessed with 2 lovely teenage daughters

 

“A solid marital friendship is a buffer against the problems that arise in marriage. No marriage will ever be totally free of differences, and setting out to “fix” everything we’re unhappy about is an impossible task. The more we’re focused on problems, the more problems we’ll see. Couples are happier when they can focus on the good in their marriage and in their spouse. When the friendship is good, it’s easier to do that, And when our friendship is solid and we are happy in the marriage, differences and problems don’t matter as much.” (by  Thomas R. Lee, Ph.D., 2001)

 

Keeping Marriage stronger


This is my another article that will tackle about “Love and Marriage”.  Today is a special day to all honeymooners, couples, and people who are into relationship. Bouquet of flowers, chocolates, expensive wines, and greeting cards are everywhere.

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May I share this article which  I summarized from the original script of Mr. Greg Laurie on how to keep marriage stronger.

  1. Turn on the light- The Bible says, “Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path” (Psalm 119:105). You must bring your marriage into the light of Scripture.
  2. Wake up- Place a firewall around your hearts, and do everything that you can to protect yourselves.
  3. Walk circumspectly. Ephesians 3:15 says, “See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools but as wise.”
  4. Redeem the time-  (Ephesians 5:16). The word redeem means to make the most of your time.
  5. Be filled with the Spirit- You cannot be what God wants you to be without the help of His Spirit.

The Bible is true, and your marriage will not only survive, but also flourish, as you follow the principles in it.

 

Below are my guests in different Island Resorts in Maldives. Feeling thankful again, for allowing me them to be featured on this blog.

10 Top Tactics to Keep a Marriage

Strong or Help Make It Strong Again

by www.SixWise.com

Show affection regularly.

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Keep arguments respectful.

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Communicate.

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Be nice to your spouse.

Choose your battles- Save the arguments for the big stuff, and simply learn to live with the rest of it.

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Do fun things together.

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Laugh together

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Show your respect.

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Do things YOUR way– It’s important that together you establish your own traditions, daily rituals and methods for raising your children, taking care of finances, etc.

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Be empathetic- Make an effort to understand your spouse, hear their concerns, and share their excitement.

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Once again, Happy Happy Valentine’s Day to all bloggers, readers, viewers of this blog.

 

 

Finding the perfect match


 Finding your match in vast horizon, is quite tricky. You can never tell, whom you will marry some day. You can never predict what future lies ahead.

Photos below taken originally in different Island Resort in Maldives

Photographer: Yours truly, “Miechelle”

 

 

Russian newly-wed in Jumeirah Vittaveli

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